Living Between Both Sides

It is strange to write about myself. I would much rather write about Emily, but I have been asked how I am doing, and it is easier to be honest on here than anywhere else. So, in the spirit of honesty: I’m not doing well. I haven’t been for a while. And I won’t be […]

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It has been one year. It has been one hell of a year. Upon reaching any milestone in life, people love to tell you about how things are going to change for you. I remember my high school teachers being borderline giddy when telling all of us that we were in for a rude awakening […]

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On Love and Loving On

On Love It is a regular occurrence that people make comments about the love Emily and I shared for one another. It has always been this way. People said it before cancer, they said it during cancer, and I hear it regularly now that she is gone. I often think about that love and what […]

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Brave Heart, Bald Head

As a child growing up in the 90s, the ultimate in cool kid hair was to grow out the top as long as possible (which was the top of your collar in my particular public school district), and then to undercut the hair on the back and sides with clippers. Being the “ultimate in cool” […]

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Emily Newcomb’s Day Off

Today marks two inconspicuous anniversaries. It is the 30th anniversary of the classic movie, “Ferris Bueller’s Day Off,” and it has been four months since Emily passed away. The two dates that happen to coincide both seem relatively insignificant to most, I’m sure, but the common denominator between these two anniversaries is incredibly significant to […]

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One Man Guy

As I stated in a previous post, I have always been a relationship kind of guy. While each of those relationships was unique, one commonality between all of them was that each of those girls was way out of my league. That’s not false humility. As a matter of fact, I’m certain that a few […]

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This Road

Over the course of the last four months, I have processed my grief on this blog. I have done my best to keep the focus on Emily as much as possible, but the ever-present reality is that she isn’t here anymore; at least not in the same way she was before. My grief, your grief, […]

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Those who know me are aware that I come from a background of Christian faith. Those who know me well know that I have left it in my background intentionally. However, while faith and religion don’t play a significant part in my life any longer, I can still reach into that background to recognize its […]

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Some time in the midst of junior high, I noticed something amazing: girls. From that moment on, I chose to spend most of my time with them. I still had a handful of guy friends, but it was clear to me that girls were smarter, funnier and prettier, so the decision was an easy one […]

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Do The Right Thing

Upon first glance, Emily and I probably didn’t seem like a good match. Emily was beautiful, polished, considerate, intentional and patient. I am not. Emily just always seemed to do the right thing. We did share one thing, however: an appreciation for the higher-minded things in life. A real love of scholarship and the arts. […]

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